Never Mind, I'll Do It !!

As parents we can find ourselves frustrated by the lack of speed our children have in getting tasks done. When we are tired of waiting or really need something done right now, we may find ourselves saying “Never mind, I’ll do it!” It often takes less time and energy to simply do it ourselves. However, when we jump in and do something our children should be doing, we are stealing the opportunity for them to increase their self discipline and sense of responsibility.

What do our children think when they hear us say “Never mind, I’ll do it”? Perhaps thoughts like:

• I can get out of doing work if I simply delay long enough.
• Dad is mad at me but at least I don’t have to do it.
• I’m kind of lazy.

Since there are no positive messages being sent in this situation, it’s something to avoid doing.

One dad described being so frustrated with his 5-year-old’s slowness in getting dressed that he finally took over and dressed his son. In his anger he scolded his son saying he was acting like a baby and shouldn’t need help getting dressed. What thoughts was this boy probably having about himself in this situation? What thoughts was he having about his dad?

Another approach this dad could have taken was to give his son the choice of getting dressed at home or taking his clothes in a bag and getting dressed at school. Allowing our children to accomplish their own tasks in their own way is a gift which will help them grow.

About Me

Today I've plenty of reasons to play a game. This weekend is a long weekend here in Ontario. Tomorrow it's a provincial holiday (Family Day). Tomorrow it's my 12th Wedding Anniversary too. Ofcourse a successful one with two wonderful kids. Can't ask for more. Touchwood. This is a "fun post" . Let's play, share, n tag. Here r the rules:

RULES:


1. Post these rules
2. You must post 11 random things about yourself.
3. Answer the questions set for you in their post.
4. Create 11 new questions for the people you tag to answer.
5. Go to their blog and tell them that you've tagged them.
6. No stuff in the tagging section about you are tagged if you are reading this. You legitimately have to tag 11 people.

11 RANDOM THINGS ABT ME:

1. First of all cums my family. I love my family, my husband, my kids, my in-laws. Their happiness means the world to me. They r happy, m happy. They r not m not. I live for them.
2. M addicted to books, libraries. If m lost from my family in the mall, they know where to find me....lol....If m not home, they know where I am.
3. Cooking, cleaning, music n driving a car r my other hobbies.
4. I CANNOT see anybody in pain.
5. I can't live without  tea, coke, coffee. ANYTIME.
6. It's not the clothes, not the hair, not the looks, not the eyes, n definately not the money that matters to me abt others but its the personality that attracts.
7. I don't party, I don't socialize, I don't shop much. But I don't think twice when it cums to kids.
8. My worst nightmare r lizards, cockroach, rats, little inscets crawling on the ground....eeewwww...yuck.
9. I find happiness in little things around me.
10. I love sunrise n sunsets.
11. I love my house. I can't saty out of it for a longer time.

QUESTIONS FROM ME:

1. Your favourite book ?
         Keeps changing. "Love in a Nutshell" cuz m reading this now n its kinda interesting.

2. Which internet site do u waste ur time on? ( Facebook, Twitter, etc.)
         Facebook..lol...games , status updates, ...trying to cut down on this ...

3.  Your Favourite holiday destination?
         Mauritius. I've been there but wanna visit again.

4.  Your Favourite movies?
         All Leonardo DiCaprio Movies.

5. The song on ur mind right now ?
         Cuando Me Enamoro by Enrique and Juan Luis Guerra.

6. What's sumthing u always have in ur fridge?
        Ice-creams

7. U miss being with ?
        My Parents.

8. The one thing u want in ur house?
        Pool Table.

9. Beach or the Mountains?
         Mountains.

10. Ur drink ?
          Coffee.

11. Define urself in one word ?
           Simple.

MY TAGS:

Book BagLady
Tantrums, Troubles, and Treasures
Lets book it
I'm a book shark
Kristina's world of books      
The Thinking Mother  
My life. One story at a time .

Want more TAGS lemme know....
             

Tribute to Whitney Houston

She had an effortless voice I've ever heard. May her soul RIP...:( ...These r some of my personal favourites and wud like to share.

I Will Always Love You

Could I Have This Kiss Forever

Rock With Somebody

I Wanna Dance With Somebody

Winning an Award

I'm Every Woman

And the list is endless......... R.I.P Whitney we're not just letting go of a beautiful woman but a voice that no one can even compare too she was beautiful inside and out no matter what mistakes she made she is a symbol and an icon of a generation of amazing music. Your gone but not soon forgotten. Love.  

Hardcover or Paperback

Actually it doesn't matter. I like both. There are places where u want to carry paperback. Like bus-stops, doctor's office or in the park. There r things I like abt Hardcover books, n things I hate. They're luxurious to hold, with thicker paper and smooth, sometimes deluxe-to-the-touch dust-jackets, but they weigh too much to cart around on the bus, park any where outside the house. There r some books which I really want them in my bookshelf at home in hardcovers. like Steve Jobs, Nora Roberts, Hugo Cabret, Fallen In Love, Peter Robinson, Harry Potter, Taken, Hunger Games, to name a few.

Which one do u prefer? Hardcover or Paperback? And Why ?

When Technology Takes Over Kids

How do you know when your kids are becoming too attached to their technology? One mom knew when she asked her son to turn off his Xbox game and instead of turning it off, he shoved her.

Being pushed was a big red flag for her since he was normally a cooperative kid. After a family meeting, they decided to have no TV, movies or computer games from Sunday evening until the following Friday evening. She says their home is much more pleasant with this new rule. 

My two kids age 9 and 4, do play games. They have everything what a kid asks for at this age. But there is a limit n time for every little things. They have their scheduled routine. Sundays its their day. Games, movies, dinners, shopping. They name it. But, its THE only day, THE only time with limits. 

Young kids becoming addicted to video games is a problem across the world. An international study of video gaming among kids found about 9% of children in grades 3 - 8 were pathological gamers - resulting in depression, anxiety, social phobias, and lower school performance.

As with all potential addictions, it’s much easier to control the behavior before it becomes a full blown addiction. If your kids are starting to show signs of being too attached to their technology, it’s time to make a change. 

Word Cloud

Like many of you out there, I'm constantly trying to find unique and different words to replace the boring old ones that I always seem to turn to. Such words add a bit of spice and intrigue to our stories and, let's be honest, they make us look (and feel) a little smarter too.

Checking out a suggestion from one of my kids teacher, I signed up for StumbleUpon a few months ago to help me with this ongoing quest. I've actually gotten some pretty cool link suggestions. Two that have been very helpful.

The first was a blog post about creating Beautiful Word Clouds, like the one in the opening picture. Basically, you choose a word (like 'technology') then brainstorm on all words that are related to the main one. It really helped me in writing a short story I'm working on. "MAKE IT HAPPEN".  For writing books, though, I was looking for something more. And I came across something awesome the following week.

The light came from another blog post on DESHODA called, "100 of the Most Beautiful Words in the English Language" (which, for some reason, actually worked out to 103 words!) WOW! What an amazing list! Let's just say I printed it off and added it to my word folder to refer to whenever I get stuck. And I thought I'd share this list with all of you today so you can do the same.

Yeah, I'll probably still suffer with the occasional bought of 'Writer's Block', but never again will I be stuck with trying to find a beautiful, unique word when I need one. Conclusion? Start with a Thesaurus, move to creating your own Beautiful Word Cloud then add some of these words to it.

Happy writing to you all this week!

Until next time!

Khairu
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1. Ailurophile: A cat-lover.
2. Assemblage: A gathering.
3. Becoming: Attractive.
4. Beleaguer: To exhaust with attacks.
5. Brood: To think alone.
6. Bucolic: In a lovely rural setting.
7. Bungalow: A small, cozy cottage.
8. Chatoyant: Like a cat’s eye.
9. Comely: Attractive.
10. Conflate: To blend together.
11. Cynosure: A focal point of admiration.
12. Dalliance: A brief love affair.
13. Demesne: Dominion, territory.
14. Demure: Shy and reserved.
15. Denouement: The resolution of a mystery.
16. Desuetude: Disuse.
17. Desultory: Slow, sluggish.
18. Diaphanous: Filmy.
19. Dissemble: Deceive.
20. Dulcet: Sweet, sugary.
21. Ebullience: Bubbling enthusiasm.
22. Effervescent: Bubbly.
23. Efflorescence: Flowering, blooming.
24. Elision: Dropping a sound or syllable in a word.
25. Elixir: A good potion.
26. Eloquence: Beauty and persuasion in speech.
27. Embrocation: Rubbing on a lotion.
28. Emollient: A softener.
29. Ephemeral: Short-lived.
30. Epiphany: A sudden revelation.
31. Erstwhile: At one time, for a time.
32. Ethereal: Gaseous, invisible but detectable.
33. Evanescent: Vanishing quickly, lasting a very short time.
34. Evocative: Suggestive.
35. Fetching: Pretty.
36. Felicity: Pleasantness.
37. Forbearance: Withholding response to provocation.
38. Fugacious: Fleeting.
39. Furtive: Shifty, sneaky.
40. Gambol: To skip or leap about joyfully.
41. Glamour: Beauty.
42. Gossamer: The finest piece of thread, a spider’s silk.
43. Halcyon: Happy, sunny, care-free.
44. Harbinger: Messenger with news of the future.
45. Imbrication: Overlapping and forming a regular pattern.
46. Imbroglio: An altercation or complicated situation.
47. Imbue: To infuse, instill.
48. Incipient: Beginning, in an early stage.
49. Ineffable: Unutterable, inexpressible.
50. Ingénue: A naïve young woman.
51. Inglenook: A cozy nook by the hearth.
52. Insouciance: Blithe nonchalance.
53. Inure: To become jaded.
54. Labyrinthine: Twisting and turning.
55. Lagniappe: A special kind of gift.
56. Lagoon: A small gulf or inlet.
57. Languor: Listlessness, inactivity.
58. Lassitude: Weariness, listlessness.
59. Leisure: Free time.
60. Lilt: To move musically or lively.
61. Lissome: Slender and graceful.
62. Lithe: Slender and flexible.
63. Love: Deep affection.
64. Mellifluous: Sweet sounding.
65. Moiety: One of two equal parts.
66. Mondegreen: A slip of the ear.
67. Murmurous: Murmuring.
68. Nemesis: An unconquerable archenemy.
69. Offing: The sea between the horizon and the offshore.
70. Onomatopoeia: A word that sounds like its meaning.
71. Opulent: Lush, luxuriant.
72. Palimpsest: A manuscript written over earlier ones.
73. Panacea: A solution for all problems
74. Panoply: A complete set.
75. Pastiche: An art work combining materials from various sources.
76. Penumbra: A half-shadow.
77. Petrichor: The smell of earth after rain.
78. Plethora: A large quantity.
79. Propinquity: Proximity; Nearness
80. Pyrrhic: Successful with heavy losses.
81. Quintessential: Most essential.
82. Ratatouille: A spicy French stew.
83. Ravel: To knit or unknit.
84. Redolent: Fragrant.
85. Riparian: By the bank of a stream.
86. Ripple: A very small wave.
87. Scintilla: A spark or very small thing.
88. Sempiternal: Eternal.
89. Seraglio: Rich, luxurious oriental palace or harem.
90. Serendipity: Finding something nice while looking for something else.
91. Summery: Light, delicate or warm and sunny.
92. Sumptuous: Lush, luxurious.
93. Surreptitious: Secretive, sneaky.
94. Susquehanna: A river in Pennsylvania.
95. Susurrous: Whispering, hissing.
96. Talisman: A good luck charm.
97. Tintinnabulation: Tinkling.
98. Umbrella: Protection from sun or rain.
99. Untoward: Unseemly, inappropriate.
100. Vestigial: In trace amounts.
101. Wafture: Waving.
102. Wherewithal: The means.
103. Woebegone: Sorrowful, downcast.